Tal Ben Shahar reveals 101 small choices we make everyday that can have a profound, cumulative and lasting impact on how happy we are. It is natural to be preoccupied by our own thoughts.
There is nothing wrong in daydreaming from time to time. But the more we can be mindful of what we are doing, as we are doing it, the healthier and happier we will be. Mindfulness is a choice, and it is something we can practice.
Inside our head we have a continuous stream of thoughts, many of which contain negative messages that harm us. We should try our level best to delete the negative messages and replace it with positive.
If we fail to appreciate the positive in other people, the positive will depreciate and we will have less of it. It costs us nothing to dispense smiles and warm words, at home or in the workplace. The benefit that we get is better career guidance and enormous happiness.
The fault finder is constantly on the look out for problems and flaws in people and situations. We can look for the good in every career situation and in every person. And in most of the cases we will find the good.
The key to providing emotional and moral support to people in need is the ability to listen to what they are saying. Lasting happiness comes not from possessing material things, but from pursuing positive experiences.
While we can change certain things, other things are out of our control. And if something is really out of our control, we have to learn to accept it regardless of how much we wish it were different. In difficult times and in tough situations it can be beneficial for us to look at things from a new angle, including seeing the humorous element – the lighter and brighter side – of our troubles.
We can improve our mood by simply smiling, or better, laughing. I can switch on the healing power of deep breathing right now and at any time throughout my day. All I need to do is gently, without strain, fill up the space of my belly, and then slowly and tenderly breathe out.
When I adhere to my inner voice, I am more likely to thrive than when I do things out of guilt or a sense of duty. The former energizes me. When I pursue my career passions, I am more likely to infuse those around me with positive energy.
When we are thankful for the good in our life, the good grows, and we have more of it. The opposite is also true. When we fail to appreciate the good, the good depreciates. Be Happy Always!